21st Century Living
My dad was waterskiing when he fell into the river. As the boat circled to pick him up, he noticed a hunter sitting in a duck boat in the reeds. My husband put his hands in the air and joked, “Don’t shoot!”
The hunter responded, “Don’t quack.”
I’ve been working on my PhD in engineering for the past five years, but my kids don’t necessarily see that as work. As we were driving past Walmart one day, my son spotted a Now Hiring sign and suggested that I could get a job there.
Hoping to make a point, I asked, “Do you think they’re looking for an engineer?”
“Oh, sure,” he said. “They’ll hire anybody.”
The biggest change after having kids was putting a swear jar in the house. Whenever I say a bad word, I have to put a dollar in the jar, and at the end of every month, I take all that money and buy myself a nice steak for being such a cool dad.
“Has your son decided what he wants to be when he grows up?” I asked my friend.
“He wants to be a garbageman,” he replied.
“That’s an unusual ambition to have at such a young age.”
“Not really, he thinks garbagemen only work on Tuesdays.”
Today’s musing takes a different turn. The focus of today’s kindness relates to my daughter Erin’s never-ending, no-holds-barred editing offerings for all things having to do with the upcoming July 20th release of my novel, Requiem for the status quo.
Erin has been one of the most consistent editors of my work and what I appreciate so much about her input is that regardless of how much she loves and adores me – and she does – she is 100% honest in her comments about my writing. I always know, without a doubt, that when she criticizes/critiques me, she is doing so out of love.
Erin wants me to succeed because she knows this project means so much to me.
In preparation for my July 29th book signing at the Northwest Book Festival in Portland, Oregon, I designed a bi-fold brochure to hand out to attendees, a brochure that introduces my book and its primary characters to those who will be browsing through the many booths and literary offerings at the festival. They may not be ready to purchase my novel right then and there, but they’ll take the brochure with them and perhaps from the comfort of their living room, will decide to order, or purchase, the book from their favorite book seller.
Erin read through my brochure with a well-tuned eye and came up with several corrections and suggestions that absolutely rendered it a far better marketing effort than it was when I deemed it perfect and ready for printing. She has a keen, literary eye on which I have relied since I started writing my novel on December 29th, 2012.
My daughter leads a very busy life, so her consistently kind contributions to my writing success mean the world to me. That is why, and for so very many other reasons, I celebrate Erin’s gift of editorial kindness that keeps on giving.
I’ve written several articles over the years about the importance of assembling a caregiving team when caring for a loved one – a team that doesn’t necessarily rely on family because not everyone has a participatory family when it comes to these matters. That was certainly the case for REQUIEM FOR THE STATUS QUO‘s Colleen Strand while taking care of her father, Patrick Quinn. She sought help from her brother but that was not something with which he chose to be involved.
REQUIEM, my debut novel, is now available for pre-order from my publisher, Black Rose Writing. You will receive a 10% discount with code PREORDER2017 if purchased before its release date of July 20th. Additionally, in the days ahead, both Amazon and Barnes & Noble will be offering a pre-order option leading up to the novel’s release. Ebook options will be available at most online book retailers as of July 27th.
Of all the life-changes we encounter during our journey, caregiving is one of – if not the most – difficult speed bumps to get over.
Caregiving: the ultimate team sport suggests how one might use the strengths of each team/family member to handle the varied needs during the caregiving journey.
Family dynamics that hamper caregiving success exposes the need to let go of stereotypes or childhood roles that don’t serve siblings well as adults. If ever there was a time to work together for the greater good, taking care of a family member with dementia or other terminal illness ranks right up there at the top.
Solo caregiving addresses the needs of the person who appears to be strapped with fulfilling all the roles needed for a successful caregiving venture. The solo caregiver need not settle into those roles, however. The help of other, well-meaning individuals, can lessen that daunting task. Certainly, much relies on the neighbor, coworker, even casual acquaintance, but said entities are a resource from which much assistance can be found.
Here are several more articles for the caregivers out there – and those acquainted with a caregiver – to provide some wisdom and encouragement through the tough times:
- The tethered caregiver
- Helping an Alzheimer’s caregiver
- Caregiving and the 36-hour day
- A normal day, caregiving style
- Caregiving: grief, guilt, exhaustion, and discrimination
- Long distance caregiving Part I and Part II
- Caregiver: put on your oxygen mask first
- Caregivers, learning from our mistakes and finally
- But how am I supposed to do that?
At the end of the school year, most of the focus is on the kids; that they are freed from the prison called school. Well, I have two children who are teachers, my stepdaughter, Kirstin, and my son-in-law, Kirby. Today’s funny is all about the teachers. I hope you’ll enjoy.
Teacher: “Craig, you know you can’t sleep in my class.”
Craig: “I know. But maybe if you were just a little quieter, I could.”
Teachers deserve a lot of credit. Of course, if we paid them more, they wouldn’t need it.
Student: Teacher, would you punish me for something I didn’t do?
Teacher: Of course not
Student: Good, because I didn’t do my homework.
The little boy wasn’t getting good marks in school. One day he made the teacher quite surprised. He tapped her on the shoulder and said …”I don’t want to scare you, but my daddy says if I don’t get better grades, somebody is going to get a spanking.”
And finally…for me, it’s as though it was just yesterday that I experienced this one:
Kindness abounds, I’m happy to say. Along with kindness comes encouragement. Each Monday on my author website, I offer words of encouragement at the bottom of each page titled Readers Corner. This week’s words are as follows:
We can begin by doing small things at the local level, like planting community gardens or looking out for our neighbors.
That is how change takes place in living systems – not from above – but from within, from many local actions occurring simultaneously. – Grace Lee Boggs
A couple family members and I talked about this very thing this past Monday. Ed stated, and I paraphrase, “That which is needed to make the world a better place doesn’t come from above, from the powers that be. It is each of us who hold that power.”
I concurred. We are not charged with helping the entire world, we are only responsible for our minuscule corner of that world. The important thing is to make some sort of difference – actually change something. Not the entire world, just the little bit around you.
Do something. That’s all that is required.
Tomorrow I’ll be installing a new modem/router on our home computer. I feel fairly confident, but one never knows what mischief I could get into in the process. Here is some computer/technology humor in preparation for my endeavor.
On email addresses:
- I’m employed at a computer security company and have a colleague whose name is M. Alware. His e-mail address is firstname.lastname@example.org.
- My ex-boss’s name is R. Stone. His e-mail was email@example.com.
- My name is James Pan. Every other permutation of my name was taken (e.g., jpan, jamesp), so I’m stuck with firstname.lastname@example.org.
On giving out to much information, the TMI syndrome:
I’ve given up social media for the New Year and am trying to make friends outside Facebook while applying the same principles. Every day, I walk down the street and tell passersby what I’ve eaten, how I feel, what I did the night before, and what I will do tomorrow. Then I give them pictures of my family, my dog, and me gardening. I also listen to their conversations and tell them I love them. And it works. I already have three people following me—two police officers and a psychiatrist.
On getting caught red-handed:
Jimmy Fallon asked his viewers to tweet #IGotBusted and share the most embarrassing times they got caught.
“I was on Facebook at work, and my boss walked up. I slammed down what I thought was my laptop screen, but it was actually my desktop monitor.”
“I lied and told my dad school was canceled. He said, ‘Let’s go see a movie.’ We got in the car, and he dropped me off at school.”
“I was Facebooking in church, and the usher passed by and whispered, ‘You better be texting Jesus.’”
I’ve completely redesigned my author website Irene Frances Olson and have revealed the cover for my novel, REQUIEM FOR THE STATUS QUO.
As part of the new look for my author site, I’ve added a few new features. One of those features is a Countdown Clock for upcoming events, located at the bottom of each webpage. Another new feature, Reader’s Corner, focuses on you.
My professional bio indicates:
“Ms. Olson’s writing quest [is to] open readers’ eyes while ushering support into each reader’s corner. And who couldn’t use a little more help now and then?”
Those aren’t empty words. My writing will always contain words of encouragement and support to those faced with the speed bumps life lays out before them. Each Monday a new feature will provide thoughtful words that will place me smack-dab in your corner as your cheerleader and greatest fan.
Reader’s Corner appears at the bottom right-hand side of each page, next to the Countdown Clock and Latest News. To cut down on email updates my readers receive, I will not send a notification of each week’s words of encouragement but I do hope you’ll visit my author site every Monday for some inspiration that just might lighten up your day.