Kindness Fridays
Can a baby purposefully exhibit kindness to others?
He doesn’t have to.
All of us came into this world without guile, judgment, or well-practiced hidden agendas. We didn’t learn that type of negative behavior until we got older and became seasoned in the fine art of selfishness and deception. I know, those are cruel and unfair words for me to say because I’m quite certain most of us do not purposefully act in a manner that is disingenuous or self-serving. With that said, however, I also know that one hundred percent of all babies are not capable of such mind games.
Our grandson – fully reliant on his parents, grandparents, and other adults – has every reason to consciously act in a manner that always guarantees the adults in his life will serve his every need. Fortunately, he doesn’t yet know how to do that. The innocence and pureness of his untainted mind has no room for such chicanery.
When my husband (his grandpa) repeatedly makes that silly noise that draws laughter from our grandson, the little guy isn’t running the following commentary through his head: Okay, that noise is kind of boring me at this point because it is SO yesterday, but I should probably laugh each and every time so I don’t hurt the old guy’s feelings. Nope, it doesn’t even occur to him to pretend because he is genuinely tickled by it. The laughter that comes from this absolutely adorable eight-month-old person is honest and outward-serving, not inward-serving.
When his mommy drops him off at our house on the two days we watch him every week, I can oftentimes be heard saying, “Is that my grandson? Oh my goodness, it is my grandson, I’m so happy to see you!” He breaks into that delightful, heart-melting smile of his, exuding pure kindness by his obvious delight at seeing his Grammo and Grandpa. When he smiles like that I think to myself: You’ve made my day, just by being you.
Our grandson gives out kindness free of charge, a kindness that isn’t dependent on his current circumstances, regardless of what they may be. Innocence is such a beautiful thing, isn’t it? A pure mind – that consequently holds only pure intentions – is one of the most valuable commodities on this earth. What a privilege it is for my husband and me to be on the receiving end of such goodness.
Many thanks go out to his parents for entrusting us with this grandparenting opportunity..
January 19, 2018 at 4:47 pm
I hope you’ll save this post, so your grandson can read it one day.
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January 19, 2018 at 5:23 pm
Absolutely, Jill. Thank you for the suggestion. ❤️
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January 19, 2018 at 10:17 am
So happy you have him in your ‘moment’ of life. Very special times.
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January 19, 2018 at 5:24 pm
Thank you, Laura, totally agree.
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January 19, 2018 at 8:27 am
Irene, what wonderful observations – and a sweet pic of Grandpa and grandson! We are all born perfect and pure, with not an angry or self-serving thought or feeling. At birth, we are blessedly untainted by the hamster wheel of negative, fearful, and anxious thoughts that can cloud our minds as we get older. The lesson learned from babies is the value of being present and in the moment, so we can return, however imperfectly, to that place of love and unencumbered joy.
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January 19, 2018 at 8:33 am
Jerry and I remark all the time how rewarding is our grandson’s honest behavior. He is so totally in the moment, all the time.
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