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Single ladies, this one’s for you

Posted on August 17, 2015 Updated on August 17, 2015

What do you look for in a man?  I did a wee bit of internet research and gleaned some listed qualities from websites such as Ask Men, Men’s Health, and Psychology Today.  Here are a few of the qualities listed:

• passionate
• humorous
• faithful
• dependable
• mysterious
• exciting
• kind
• generous
• confident
• good job

All but two of those qualities were on my list when I was looking for a husband.  Maybe it’s just me, but a man who’s mysterious seems to cancel out a few of the other list-worthy qualities above.  Additionally, I think exciting is completely overrated.

I hit the jackpot when I met my husband.

I don’t wanna brag … who am I kidding, I really wanna brag about my choice in life partners.

Maybe my age at the time that I met him had something to do with my list of priorities.  At the age of 42, I had learned that firecrackers lose their fizzle after awhile and start to stink when that’s all they’ve got going for them.  Truth be told, after my first marriage at the age of 21 and divorce at the age of 25, I took it upon myself to have more fun and adventure than was advisable.  Believe you me, I met my share of firecrackers.  I count my blessings that some of the situations I got myself into way back then didn’t result in disaster.  Suffice it to say, my life would look a lot different now if luck and providence hadn’t inserted themselves into my life.

When I met my exceptional husband, I sought relationship longevity potential and not too long after meeting him, I was quite sure I had found it.  Boy oh boy was I right.  During our 15 1/2 years of marriage, he has exhibited trueness beyond measure.  Here are a few definitions of trueness:

• real, genuine, authentic
• sincere, steadfast, reliable
• of the right kind, honorable
• unfailing, upright

That’s how he is regardless of the circumstances, but unfortunately I’ve also had opportunities to experience them when I wasn’t in the best of health.  Trust me, when you’re not able to do anything for yourself – I mean anything – give me all the above characteristics over exhilarating any day.  Don’t get me wrong, there’s lots of the latter in my life with him, but if that’s all there was to him, I’d be in deep doo-doo, up a creek without a paddle, over a barrel – you get the idea.

You’ve either got it in you to be what a person needs in sickness or in health, and for better or for worse, or you don’t.

My husband does, and that’s a quality I can bank on.