This is not a decision that comes easily to anyone.
Think about it. You’ve spent decades living with the love of your life. Your days are structured around each other; the ebb and flow of all those hours are what you crave and enjoy.
You are faced with what will most certainly be an irreversible decision to leave your wife in the hands of others. You feel guilty, regardless of how well-informed and appropriate the decision.
Your wife’s days will take on a new routine without you, and your daily regimen will not even be recognizable. You’ll rattle around an empty house that begs for your wife’s presence; a TV viewing time that’s missing her ongoing commentary about the state of the world as depicted on the news. Waking up those first few days you’ll wander into the kitchen and make a single cup of coffee where before you brewed a pot.
Most days you’ll not even finish your breakfast before you’re out the door to spend the day with your sweetheart because your house is no longer a home without her.
And all the while, the guilt you feel will surpass your feelings of loneliness and sadness. A guilt that is unavoidable, although not warranted.
I recently wrote about the crabby old lady one might encounter in a nursing home or medical setting. I encouraged my readers to respect her. Now I’m encouraging you to respect the person who placed her there, the person who finds himself alone in this world and doesn’t know how to function in it.
Reach out to him, encourage him, adopt him.
He’s hurting too.