Don’t Worry. Be Happy!

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Whether it’s because the Holidays are fast-approaching, or we’re relocating to a different area, or we are faced with a life stressor that threatens life, limb, and sanity, we are oftentimes encouraged to stay calm and relax. ARE YOU KIDDING ME?!!!

Being on the receiving end of such an admonition is not a welcome moment, to be sure. “Try being in my women’s size 12 shoes and say that again! You have no authority here.” Boy can I relate. Given an opportunity to break down that comment, however, I might eventually get to the point of being able to at least realize that if I were to take a few deep breaths I would feel slightly better as a result.

I fully understand the impetus behind someone telling us not to worry. Certainly I have said the same thing to someone in need and I absolutely meant it. But staying calm is not an easy venture, is it? But boy oh boy is it called for.

I react and I overreact – just ask my husband. You know what they say about teaching old dogs new tricks? Well, I’ve been trying to learn the calming lesson/trick for quite some time now. The more I overreact and discover later that such a reaction was not needed, I get that much closer to learning a lesson that will most definitely help my well-being. When an overreaction takes place, the fight or flight response gets set into motion which sets in motion bodily anomalies that never do the body good: accelerated heart rate, increased pain where pain might already exist, and if you’re me, the gastric juices start churning and a sour stomach ensues.

Being able to witness time and time again that things most of the time turn out okay, that most disasters are readily avoided, and life goes on regardless of any perceived evidence to the contrary, then we can settle down and carry on. But if you’re at all like me, you will need to administer compassion and loving kindness toward yourself to attain such a state of well-being. 

I hope you succeed in doing so, as much as I hope to do so myself.

 

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4 thoughts on “Don’t Worry. Be Happy!

    Book Club Mom said:
    December 12, 2022 at 6:41 pm

    It’s a constant mental exercise, and you’re right, almost all the time things work out. I worry most about my kids (all grown), but I try hard not to since it’s out of my control. Happy holidays, Irene!

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    Jill Weatherholt said:
    December 12, 2022 at 3:10 pm

    After dealing with spikes in my blood pressure, I’m finally at a place where I’m able to stay calm. The best part is I didn’t have to go on medication.

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      Irene Olson responded:
      December 12, 2022 at 4:48 pm

      Jill, I want you totally healthy. Your heart is so lovely, having it healthy is a requirement. Bless you!

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