You Are Not Stupid

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Thoughts aren’t always true, they are just thoughts.

We are oftentimes admonished not to be judgmental of others, but what about the judgments we have about ourselves? I catch myself being very self-critical, repeating what I oftentimes heard my mother say to herself when she, for example, made a sewing mistake. “Oh Patricia! You’re so stupid!”

My mother was far from stupid, nor am I, so declaring oneself stupid is very inaccurate. A far less harsh statement might be, “Oh, Irene, that wasn’t a smart thing to do/that was a stupid thing to do.” I’m not stupid, but the action wasn’t the best delivered action at the time.

All I’m saying in this minuscule post is to be careful what you say to yourself – whether out loud or in your mind – because I guarantee, you are listening, and some day, you just might start believing what you hear.

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4 thoughts on “You Are Not Stupid

    Theresa Hupp said:
    October 14, 2022 at 1:37 pm

    A good reminder about our “self-talk.”

    My dad used to tell himself when he golfed, “That was a Tommy putt.” Which always meant it was a bad one.

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      Irene Olson responded:
      October 14, 2022 at 2:00 pm

      We’ve all done it. It takes practice to change it to self-affirming talk, to be sure.

      Liked by 1 person

    Jill Weatherholt said:
    October 10, 2022 at 12:34 pm

    This is so true, Irene. Negative words about yourself can result in a negative life. Once I learned this, I would cringe when I would hear someone I love say “I’m so stupid” or “I’m an idiot.”

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      Irene Olson responded:
      October 10, 2022 at 12:37 pm

      Believing the lies we tell ourselves can be avoided by not lying from the get-go. ♥️

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