The Colors of Love

Posted on Updated on

What a privilege it is to love someone and be loved by them. There’s a reason why there are so many dating/relationship services out there: we crave connection, and happily-ever-after is a worthy goal to pursue.

I’m fortunate that my current 26-year relationship (married for 22 of those 26) quite naturally fell into place. Girl meets boy on a blind date set up by a dating site; girl and boy decide to get together for another date, and…the rest is history!

No one disputed my choice of a partner with whom I held hands, smooched in public, and eventually enjoyed full intimacy. That is not always the case, whether a partner is of a different race, financial standing, or of the same gender identity. I experienced racial hatred when I married my first husband who is Chinese American. As a newly married couple, we walked hand-in-hand on a weekend outing in an Eastern Washington town where we were verbally accosted by a woman who shouted, “Thou shalt not mix races! You are an abomination to God!” I very unpolitely told her off and went on my way with my husband, enjoying the love we had already shared for more than eight years. That was almost 50 years ago, and I am still negatively affected by it. Many are harassed and abused in a similar manner because of the love they share with someone, harassment that takes many forms.

In the early 90s, I was privileged to work at a progressive Seattle law firm where one of my coworkers, a woman, was in a relationship with another woman. The two of them had certainly experienced discrimination but expressed that for the most part they had been fortunate. I asked my coworker how she and her partner had met. “Susan is who I fell in love with and she with me. It’s all about who you fall in love with.” That made sense to me and still does.

What also makes sense is living one’s truth and genuineness about who you are as an individual, and with whom you choose to share your life. Being who you are with someone else is rife with hurdles, regardless of your gender, but truly there is no other way to be. No ifs, ands, or buts –  being safely and securely transparent in a relationship is a gift! What a privilege it is to live honestly, not having to pretend to be someone else, not living a cloaked identity just to be accepted by others.

I experience that freedom, and wish that same freedom for everyone seeking connection, love, and happily-ever-after.

May it be so.



6 thoughts on “The Colors of Love

    Book Club Mom said:
    June 6, 2022 at 11:50 am

    As Jill says, love is love – everyone deserves that happiness.

    Liked by 1 person

    Jill Weatherholt said:
    June 6, 2022 at 9:25 am

    I’m sorry to hear you experienced such hatred, Irene. People need to mind their own business. Love is love!

    Liked by 1 person

      Irene Olson responded:
      June 6, 2022 at 9:35 am

      Young love in full display, after living in Hawaii where I met my former husband where our relationship was so very normal.

      Liked by 1 person

    Don Desonier said:
    June 6, 2022 at 8:40 am

    Wonderful and insightful piece Irene. How awful and upsetting was the experience you had with your first husband. We have come a long way as a country and community, accepting and supportive of all those we love.

    This is especially relevant as we celebrate Gay Pride in this month of June, where we honor, value and love the LGBTQIA+ community.

    Liked by 1 person

      Irene Olson responded:
      June 6, 2022 at 8:41 am

      Most definitely, on all accounts. ♥️


What's on your mind?

Fill in your details below or click an icon to log in: Logo

You are commenting using your account. Log Out /  Change )

Facebook photo

You are commenting using your Facebook account. Log Out /  Change )

Connecting to %s

This site uses Akismet to reduce spam. Learn how your comment data is processed.