Caregiver Guilt

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Just under seven years ago I posted this article about the guilt many caregivers feel when they are convinced nothing they do for a loved one is good enough. I felt the need to repost it today.

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Do you feel as though you don’t visit your loved one often enough at the long-term care (LTC) facility in which they live? Try to acknowledge that guilt is a feeling that may not necessarily reflect an accurate reality of how attentive you are towards your loved one.

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Many people have expressed their concerns to me that they’re just not doing enough for their loved one who lives in a LTC facility. Even when a caregiver visits Mom several days a week, the caregiver still feels guilty for not making more of an effort to be there for her.

Guilt is a valid feeling – I believe all feelings are valid – but the feeling of guilt may not accurately reflect what is going on. Let’s face it, most of us are hard on ourselves. The old adage, “we’re our own worse critic” came about resultant from…

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4 thoughts on “Caregiver Guilt

    laura bruno lilly said:
    July 2, 2018 at 2:44 pm

    Even though I’m no longer in the caregiver from afar role (last parent passed 2016) I so relate to this and it helps me even now come to grips different aspects of what transpired in those years.

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      Irene Olson responded:
      July 2, 2018 at 3:13 pm

      Hugs to you as well, Laura. Guilt is a burden caregivers can’t afford to bear.

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    Mary Riesche said:
    July 1, 2018 at 9:22 pm

    It was so dear to see the picture of you with Dad. Your article I remember from 7 years ago but it seems so pertinent and relevant to me now in my particular case with visiting Grace.

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      Irene Olson responded:
      July 2, 2018 at 3:04 pm

      Mary, you do so much for your mother-in-law; you have nothing to be ashamed of. I understand the guilt – that’s normal – but it’s not necessarily justified.


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